Men And Their Interests...Let Them Go For It.
It never ceases to amaze me how media portrayal attempts to corral men into particular roles. Continual derision, equating men to young boys when it comes to men's interests, showing men who have other interests ignore their families, etc., cause many men to ignore things they otherwise should not ignore.
Men are creatures of creativity, and their interests are wide and various. My interests include blacksmithing, cooking (breakfast foods and low temprature smoked barbeque), acquarium keeping, and martial arts. Other men like tweaking cars, gaming, and a wide variety of other activities.
The ladies in our lives, unless we're lucky (I'm a lucky one), "put up" with our interest, acting skeptical at best, acting like it's an infringement upon their time at worst. Society at large supports this view - men aren't supposed to have interests outside of the home and family, when they do, they're relegated to being treated as children.
We (society) ignores these drives in men at our peril. Men have created pretty much everyproduct and service we enjoy today, or have improved upon it if they didn't invent it (there are exceptions of course, but not many).
That's not a sexist statement, simply a statement of fact. With women becoming more involved with things, this is slowly changing, but it will be a long time before the inventions of women are at least numerically superior to those of men.
So what's my point - men have a very powerful creative urge to build, create. This urge is denied at our peril. Many men have given into what society tells them to do - set aside their interests and focus on family only. These are the majority of men who go to work, come home, eat, watch tv, go to bed, repeat. These men too have creative needs which are not being met.
When these men reach a point in their lives where they realize they haven't done anything (aka mid life crisis), they seek to do anything which even has the appearance of a sense of accomplishing anything. Buying a hot sports car, or acquiring a trophy wife are typical "accomplishments" of men in a midlife crisis.
So...what's the bottom line - if you see something you're interested (women too) look into it, do some investigation. Simply learning a little more about the interesting thing might be all it takes to show you it's not for you. If it is something you want to pursue further, let people around you know about your interest...they care about you and will be excited for and with you. Finding something constructive to be interested in is more satisfying and healthy than some short term fix, such as an affair, illegal drugs, excessive alcohol, etc.
Ladies...let your man get involved in his interests, and don't pre-judge or ridicule him, no matter what the interest...collecting comic books, inventing a perpetual motion machine, computer gaming. The point where he'll need you is if he starts shirking responsibilities...but let him have his interests otherwise. He'll be happier, and thus so will you.
Men are creatures of creativity, and their interests are wide and various. My interests include blacksmithing, cooking (breakfast foods and low temprature smoked barbeque), acquarium keeping, and martial arts. Other men like tweaking cars, gaming, and a wide variety of other activities.
The ladies in our lives, unless we're lucky (I'm a lucky one), "put up" with our interest, acting skeptical at best, acting like it's an infringement upon their time at worst. Society at large supports this view - men aren't supposed to have interests outside of the home and family, when they do, they're relegated to being treated as children.
We (society) ignores these drives in men at our peril. Men have created pretty much everyproduct and service we enjoy today, or have improved upon it if they didn't invent it (there are exceptions of course, but not many).
That's not a sexist statement, simply a statement of fact. With women becoming more involved with things, this is slowly changing, but it will be a long time before the inventions of women are at least numerically superior to those of men.
So what's my point - men have a very powerful creative urge to build, create. This urge is denied at our peril. Many men have given into what society tells them to do - set aside their interests and focus on family only. These are the majority of men who go to work, come home, eat, watch tv, go to bed, repeat. These men too have creative needs which are not being met.
When these men reach a point in their lives where they realize they haven't done anything (aka mid life crisis), they seek to do anything which even has the appearance of a sense of accomplishing anything. Buying a hot sports car, or acquiring a trophy wife are typical "accomplishments" of men in a midlife crisis.
So...what's the bottom line - if you see something you're interested (women too) look into it, do some investigation. Simply learning a little more about the interesting thing might be all it takes to show you it's not for you. If it is something you want to pursue further, let people around you know about your interest...they care about you and will be excited for and with you. Finding something constructive to be interested in is more satisfying and healthy than some short term fix, such as an affair, illegal drugs, excessive alcohol, etc.
Ladies...let your man get involved in his interests, and don't pre-judge or ridicule him, no matter what the interest...collecting comic books, inventing a perpetual motion machine, computer gaming. The point where he'll need you is if he starts shirking responsibilities...but let him have his interests otherwise. He'll be happier, and thus so will you.
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