Self Deprecating Males
I've had about enough of these guys. Men who introduce their wives/girlfriends as their "Better Half." Guys who castigate me for not answering my cell phone when my wife calls, in spite of the fact that I'm in the middle of something. Guys who agree that men are always wrong. Men who let their wives/girlfriends "win" every argument, because it would be wrong to do otherwise. Guys who otherwise insinuate that women are superior to men.
I could dig up countless additional examples.
That rant being said, I'm of the firm belief that the genders should be treated equally, by each other and themselves. My contention this morning isn't with women by any means, only with the men who consider themselves inferior to them. Which seems to be most of them.
For some guys, they do the self deprecation dance as a weird way of showing that they appreciate the women in their lives. But come on. All the time? When you repeat something long enough, you tend to believe it. I haven't met a guy yet who does this sort of behavior, and doesn't believe that he's inferior to his wife. How can I tell? If I somehow question if they mean what they say, I universally get something along the lines of "Yes, I mean it, and if you don't believe the same way, you're an abusive man," or something along those lines.
These days, I don't even bother talking to these knuckleheads about their self deprecating activities. I just keep a mental note that they consider themselves inferior.
Until these men, and argubly all men, learn and appreciate their worth, this self deprecation will continue. I for one won't be a part of it.
In closing - Guys, listen. Women deserve to be praised, of course. They bring many great qualities to the table, as do men. However, praising them at the expense of the male psyche is not the way to to about it. Shower the ladies with gifts, give them all the affection, romance, and kudos they deserve, and they deserve a lot. In the same breath don't point out that you are somehow worthless and/or inferior in some way. You're just as valuable as they are...no more, no less.
I could dig up countless additional examples.
That rant being said, I'm of the firm belief that the genders should be treated equally, by each other and themselves. My contention this morning isn't with women by any means, only with the men who consider themselves inferior to them. Which seems to be most of them.
For some guys, they do the self deprecation dance as a weird way of showing that they appreciate the women in their lives. But come on. All the time? When you repeat something long enough, you tend to believe it. I haven't met a guy yet who does this sort of behavior, and doesn't believe that he's inferior to his wife. How can I tell? If I somehow question if they mean what they say, I universally get something along the lines of "Yes, I mean it, and if you don't believe the same way, you're an abusive man," or something along those lines.
These days, I don't even bother talking to these knuckleheads about their self deprecating activities. I just keep a mental note that they consider themselves inferior.
Until these men, and argubly all men, learn and appreciate their worth, this self deprecation will continue. I for one won't be a part of it.
In closing - Guys, listen. Women deserve to be praised, of course. They bring many great qualities to the table, as do men. However, praising them at the expense of the male psyche is not the way to to about it. Shower the ladies with gifts, give them all the affection, romance, and kudos they deserve, and they deserve a lot. In the same breath don't point out that you are somehow worthless and/or inferior in some way. You're just as valuable as they are...no more, no less.
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